Why Can’t I Just Be A Trophy Wife?

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“That’s it!  I’m quitting and I’m gonna be a trophy wife!” I tell myself on days when I have just had enough of life.  I am romanced by the idea of my top priorities being (1) to keep myself beautiful for my husband and (2) to plan amazing parties for my fabulous friends. Why do I have to have ambition and be such an overachiever … is all the stress and anxiety worth it?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had too many panic / anxiety attacks in my 20’s (and even now that I’m 30!) about my career and life choices.  Am I on the right path?  Why are there so many options?  Why is everybody becoming a blogger or life coach? Is corporate life the career for me?  Thanks to social media, we are constantly bombarded with other people’s fabulous lives that when we come across extreme adversity particularly in our careers, we ask ourselves if the stress and heartache really is worth it.  Should we just quit and travel the world and make money online like how all these Instagram ads tell us to?  Should we just quit and live off our husbands’ salaries and become the most amazing trophy wives ever?  And if you’re an overachiever like me, you know you’d KILL IT as a trophy wife lol.

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Trophy wife skills on point.

But I have to say no: do not give up.  Society’s leaders are misrepresented enough thanks to all the male-dominated boards, organizations and industries out there.  Don’t be another female-number giving up on your career just because it’s socially acceptable to.  I’ve spiraled down the aforementioned path too many times.  I end up not wanting to get out of bed, running to the bathroom to calm my nerves before I cry at the office, stressing out on the weekend worried about the week ahead, binge watching Netflix to escape, wanting to give up on life … but I have always managed to crawl back out of that hole wiser and stronger by reflecting on the following.

Take yourself back, WAY back, to your younger self.  She is excited about life.  She can do anything she wants.  She can’t wait to rule the world.  Get that feeling back and not by giving up on your career.

Remember why you chose this path in the first place.  Remember the impact that you wanted to make in the world. Remember what you wanted to be when you grow up.  Remember the successful woman you wanted to become.

Think about what you can change around you to get all those warm, exciting, ambitious feelings back.  Are you in the right job role?  Are you in the right company?  Have you spoken to your manager?  Are you volunteering with a worthwhile cause?  Do you have the right friends?  Are you sleeping / eating / exercising right?  Are you doing anything at all that makes you happy?

Start small and make some changes. Even the tiniest things like getting enough sleep can make a huge impact. Do not give up on the career you’ve worked so hard for and have gone so far to achieve.  Be that feisty, ambitious (and adorable!) little girl again.  Stay strong and stay you.

❤ Isabel

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How To Throw A #BossBabe Baby Shower

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Nisha (Mommy-to-be) and me at her baby shower!

That’s right, we’re getting old.  Friends are getting engaged, getting married … and getting pregnant! And not always in that particular order. Nonetheless, you may find yourself having to organize a baby shower one of these days. Continue reading

How To Get Out Of That Failure Funk

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What do an astronaut, an Olympic gold medalist and a CEO have in common? Other than the fact that they are #bosses in their respective fields, they have all experienced failure … and multiple times! Continue reading

Five Unique (& So Not #Basic) Valentine’s Date Ideas

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It’s that time of year again! Love is in the air, cupids and red hearts are everywhere… and your significant other is pressuring you to plan something “special”.

Even if you think V-day is a completely pointless and commercial holiday, hardly anyone wants to be that one person who didn’t get/do anything on this day of loooove.  To help you out, here are some unique (and totally not #basic) ideas to spice up your Valentine’s Day Date Night in good ol’ Calgary, Alberta. Continue reading

My Fave Five Lifestyle Gurus

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Lifestyling it up since day 1.

Is it just me or is everyone excited about 2018 and all its possibilities?  I’m loving all the optimism and motivation on social media about taking on 2018 fearlessly!  I’m hoping your year has gotten off to a great start and that you’ve utilized some of the tips from my favourite leadership gurus of my last blog post.  As promised, this is the second half of my “gurus” series and this time it’s all about my favourite lifestyle influencers (to keep on brand with my Lifestyle and Leadership Blog, of course :)).  “Lifestyle” is such an umbrella term and each of these ladies come from their own level of celebrity, but they all have a few things in common: they’ve absolutely killed it in their careers, they’ve diversified their talents and revenue streams, they’ve cultivated their own distinct personal brands and they are family oriented.  Continue reading

Be Your Own Guru: My Top Leadership Gurus of 2017

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In today’s world of self help, leadership development and life/wellness/health/executive/performance/business coaches, there is no shortage of experts with their recommendations on how to live your best life.  As a dreamer and overachiever freshly in my 30’s, I am no stranger to the self help space.  I am constantly looking for ways to pump myself up with motivation, get myself out of a funk or simply keep the momentum going.  Continue reading

Collaboration Over Competition

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I’ve been obsessed lately with The Skinny Confidential’s Him & Her Podcast and just finished their episode with Create & Cultivate’s Jaclyn Johnson. They spoke about collaboration over competition, which completely struck a chord with me. Continue reading

Dreams Do Come True

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Wake up, work, eat, sleep, repeat. It’s easy to get caught up in that daily grind, working hard everyday striving to achieve that next milestone and striving to achieve that vicious cycle of ‘more’. Have you ever looked back and reflected on how far you’ve come? I recently did and it felt pretty amazing.  Continue reading

You Do You: Own Your Path And Support Others

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Earlier this year Jett and I went on a coffee date with another married couple whom Jett met at the gym. Everything was going well until they challenged me on my life and career choices, basically making me feel bad that I’ve chosen the corporate-slave path working towards building someone else’s dream.  Continue reading

All-Time Summer Favourites

It’s the last long weekend of summer!  Time to wear your favourite summer outfits before #PSL season comes in at full force 🙂 Here’s a video of my all-time summer favourite pieces and their back stories:

YouTube Link: https://youtu.be/FlX00kRDDT0    Continue reading