“That’s it! I’m quitting and I’m gonna be a trophy wife!” I tell myself on days when I have just had enough of life. I am romanced by the idea of my top priorities being (1) to keep myself beautiful for my husband and (2) to plan amazing parties for my fabulous friends. Why do I have to have ambition and be such an overachiever … is all the stress and anxiety worth it?
I don’t know about you, but I’ve had too many panic / anxiety attacks in my 20’s (and even now that I’m 30!) about my career and life choices. Am I on the right path? Why are there so many options? Why is everybody becoming a blogger or life coach? Is corporate life the career for me? Thanks to social media, we are constantly bombarded with other people’s fabulous lives that when we come across extreme adversity particularly in our careers, we ask ourselves if the stress and heartache really is worth it. Should we just quit and travel the world and make money online like how all these Instagram ads tell us to? Should we just quit and live off our husbands’ salaries and become the most amazing trophy wives ever? And if you’re an overachiever like me, you know you’d KILL IT as a trophy wife lol.
Trophy wife skills on point.
But I have to say no: do not give up. Society’s leaders are misrepresented enough thanks to all the male-dominated boards, organizations and industries out there. Don’t be another female-number giving up on your career just because it’s socially acceptable to. I’ve spiraled down the aforementioned path too many times. I end up not wanting to get out of bed, running to the bathroom to calm my nerves before I cry at the office, stressing out on the weekend worried about the week ahead, binge watching Netflix to escape, wanting to give up on life … but I have always managed to crawl back out of that hole wiser and stronger by reflecting on the following.
Take yourself back, WAY back, to your younger self. She is excited about life. She can do anything she wants. She can’t wait to rule the world. Get that feeling back and not by giving up on your career.
Remember why you chose this path in the first place. Remember the impact that you wanted to make in the world. Remember what you wanted to be when you grow up. Remember the successful woman you wanted to become.
Think about what you can change around you to get all those warm, exciting, ambitious feelings back. Are you in the right job role? Are you in the right company? Have you spoken to your manager? Are you volunteering with a worthwhile cause? Do you have the right friends? Are you sleeping / eating / exercising right? Are you doing anything at all that makes you happy?
Start small and make some changes. Even the tiniest things like getting enough sleep can make a huge impact. Do not give up on the career you’ve worked so hard for and have gone so far to achieve. Be that feisty, ambitious (and adorable!) little girl again. Stay strong and stay you.
In today’s world of self help, leadership development and life/wellness/health/executive/performance/business coaches, there is no shortage of experts with their recommendations on how to live your best life. As a dreamer and overachiever freshly in my 30’s, I am no stranger to the self help space. I am constantly looking for ways to pump myself up with motivation, get myself out of a funk or simply keep the momentum going. Continue reading
I’ve been reading Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” again now that I’m in a new position at work with more responsibility and more people depending on me. She quickly mentions how “all advice is autobiographical” and it just blew my mind. Is this why I feel the need to create my picture quotes on Instagram? To give myself advice as much as I give it to everyone else? Why, yes it is. Continue reading
If you Google “passion quotes”, an endless list of inspirational pictures and page results appear! You don’t need anyone to tell you that “finding your passion in life” is a hot topic. Continue reading
Jelly? (Me trying to set the mood for this blog)
One night I was scrolling through good old Facebook when I came across a friend of a friend of a friend. (Yes, it was that kind of night.) She was just fascinating, so allow me to share what my train of thought was like as I “stalked” her: Continue reading
Resolutions never work! At least for me they don’t. This year my resolution was to be punctual. Alas, I am still that friend who is always late. As a teenager my resolution was always to lose enough weight to get to 120 lbs. Never have I ever been that weight! Well, maybe when I was … say 11 years old? If you’re like me, instead of making a resolution for 2016, try making a mantra. Continue reading
Sometimes life gives you lemons that are so bad, you just can’t make lemonade. Don’t panic! Everyone gets lemons in varying degrees. Try not to be a party pooper, deal with it and live your life! Of course you can rant about it with your close friends and family, but don’t dwell on it for too long — vent and move on. Life is not perfect and that’s what makes it interesting. Continue reading
I love Calgary. But the fact that we are one of the “worst places to be a woman in Canada” irks me. We are a highly diverse, multicultural city with so much to do and so much to experience and I want people to see that. It’s time for change. It’s time to show people that Calgary is inclusive and diverse. It’s time to create an environment where women are fully participating in, contributing to, and leading efforts to build Alberta’s economy. And this is exactly what KNOVO aims to do. Continue reading
Sometimes I feel like giving up. Sometimes I feel like simply coasting through life and taking the easy route. I have to slap myself out of it and remember why I’m doing what I’m doing. Continue reading
It’s almost May! Is it just me or is 2015 flying by? Instead of going through the motions of life, I’m constantly reminding myself to just live, enjoy each day and be grateful for each day. And here’s how I do it! Continue reading